Prepare

In 2000 I was neck-deep in the throws of over-managing my career; continually looking for and convinced that I was “The Guy” for whatever job I had deemed as the “next step” in my career.  In a span from 1996 to 2000, I had the following jobs: Sold phone systems; sold information services to Capitol Hill, sold web-based publishing software; sold web-hosting and data-center services, went back to selling phone systems, and then I moved all my chips to a start-up called Network Access Solutions, (NAS).  It was at this start-up where I reconnected with DR and began to explore my faith.

It was also during this time that my attention was captured by another job for which I was a perfect fit.  Now while this “dream job” was very technical, I am not.  Any of you who know me, understand that I am not technical at all.  Sure, I had taken the pre-requisite sales-trainings and had the sales certifications; but honestly I could not tell the difference between a switch and a Swatch.  However; what I could bring to the table was the ability to create relationships with the customer, allowing them to lead me to where I’d bring an engineer into the conversation and quickly back-away.  Until of course it was time to cash commission checks.

The point is; I was not really qualified for the job I wanted.  And even though, as my long resume could attest, I had good sales experience, I really only had one-year of true networking experience and frankly only had about 3-4 transactions that would qualify as the type of deal I would be running every day in my new role.  The truth of the matter is that I was not ready for the job.  From a technical standpoint I would have been in way over my head, and in the end was passed over for the job.  The funny thing when looking back on it, is that I could have been ready for it.  Had I spent half the time preparing for my dream job that I spent looking for my dream job, I might have been ready.

Sound familiar?  Has anyone else ever missed out on an opportunity because more time was spent working for the opportunity instead of preparing for the opportunity?  The great news that I didn’t know in the early stages of my expedited resume construction, is that God actually weighs in on this topic.

Prepare yourself tonight to join us tomorrow morning at 6:30 as we finish up our final series of the year.

Invest, Invite…

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Pat Mancuso
patmancuso@mac.com
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FUEL
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Our mission is to create a comfortable, relevant and honest environment where men can explore and discuss aspects of life, purpose and faith.

We accomplish our mission by reviewing pertinent issues in men’s lives, examining them through relevant biblical principles, followed by a time of discussion with other men.

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CURRENT SERIES: Waiting on God

A few years ago my wife and I took a trip out to Vegas. It was a pilgrimage if you will, as Vegas is one of the few locations globally that hosts several permanent Cirque Du Soleil shows.  Yes, it’s true, my wife and I went to Vegas to see Cirque Du Soleil.  We are Cirque heads, or Cirquees, or whatever you call people that are obsessed with an adult circus that charges an arm and a leg to see a show. Let it be known that we didn’t go to see just any show, we went to see O.  The show of all shows, The Cirques of all Cirques.

Sure, we also saw Mystere (another Cirque Du Soleil show) while we were out there, but that was to be the appetizer to the sensory buffet known only as “O”.

So the day of the show arrives and we have to go stand in line at the Bellagio to obtain these tickets that we had reserved weeks in advance. The line was longer than I had expected but with three people working the counter, we were moving through the line at a pretty good clip.  With only two people left in front of me the anticipation of receiving my tickets was almost more than I could stand.  “I can help you over here, sir”  I could hear one of the ladies say to the first person in line, leaving only one person standing between me and the mecca of Cirque fanatics.

“I’m sorry sir, we don’t seem to have your reservation on file,” I can hear the lady say to the guy that had just moved over to be helped.  “Well, I made it,”  He replied in a tone and volume that let everyone know that his plans to see O were not going to be thwarted by some silly reservation system.  “Next in line please,” another lady working behind the counter said, and as the lady in front of me moved toward the desk, I now stood next in line to be helped.  “I told you I made the reservation.  HERE, this is the credit card I used!” yelled the guy with no reservation number – and apparently no seats.

“Next in line,” said the lady at the counter and as I stepped up to the open spot next to Mr. “No Seats” I give the lady my name, and the credit card I used to make the reservation.

“Well I made the reservation,” Mr. No Seats says to the woman behind the counter again, this time at a volume bordering on yelling.  He is so loud, in fact, I almost can’t hear the lady behind the counter tell me she can’t find any tickets listed under my name.

“Excuse me?” I say, as I suddenly start to feel sympathetic for the guy next to me at the counter who at this point seems ready to start taking hostages. “I don’t see any reservations under your name or made with this credit card,”  she says to me, probably still wondering if I am going to react like the guy next to me, who by the way is now demanding to speak to a manager.  “Well, I made them,” I say with more of a tone of defeat than demand, to which she replies “I’m sorry,” she says. “We don’t have anything in the system under your name.”

So there I stood at the ticket desk in the Bellagio hotel in Vegas with two options. I could attempt to take control of the situation and start acting like the guy next to me or accept the fact that the show was “sold out” and they didn’t have my reservation in the system.  I can tell you what I wanted to do.  However, I am happy to report that instead of reading this girl the riot act I said “Well… it’s not your fault.”  As I prepared to leave the ticket counter in defeat, the lady said “Give me one second sir, I want to go check something with my manager.”  So she walks behind the girl that is still being yelled at by Mr. No Seats and disappears through a door only to return a few moments later with an envelope in hand.

“Thank you for waiting sir, it seems as if my manager was able to release these tickets for you.  I do apologize for the misunderstanding and I hope you enjoy the show,” she said in a whisper, perhaps to ensure that the guy next to me didn’t hear what just happened.  Then she handed me the envelope with two tickets to see O that night.  If that wasn’t enough, the seats she gave us were in the 5th row and were dead center stage, far better than the tickets that I had reserved or should I say the tickets I thought I reserved.

I tell that story because as we prepare for our two week series “Waiting on God”, we often think that when God doesn’t respond to us right away or give us exactly what we want, that somehow He’s shortchanging us.  We act like that guy next to me in line waiting to get Cirque tickets.  We feel that we need to get involved, insert ourselves into the process, we need to take charge of the situation, we need to make sure things work out the way we want them to.  In short we would rather play God than wait on Him.

What if God wanted us to wait on Him, not because He was trying to shortchange us, but because His plans were far greater than anything we could even imagine? From landing the big deal to getting diagnosed with cancer, maybe God is asking us to wait on Him because He is at work in the middle of all of our situations working out results far greater than ones we could ever produce on our own.

If you can wait until Wednesday we will talk more about it then. Invite a friend out as we start our new two weeks series “Waiting on God”…

D.R.


CURRENT SERIES: I Believe

In 1999, I went to see the movie The Sixth Sense. It was the big breakout movie for the new director M. Night Shyamalan.  Unfortunately it was one of the last good movies he made. (Unbreakable was the other.  Believe me when I say it has been all downhill since then.) The Sixth Sense was about a young boy who spoke to the spirits of people that didn’t know they were dead.  After a few terrifying events, he starts meeting with a child psychologist, played by Bruce Willis.

The movie was a huge hit and there was a huge buzz about the movie and this big ‘twist’ that happens during the movie. After a few weeks of constant buzz I make my way to Reston Multiplex, and about halfway through this movie, after my box of Milk Duds and the large vat of popcorn, and I start thinking about what this ‘twist’ could be.  So I start running all of these scenarios through my head, and all of the sudden it hits me… The child psychologist is dead and doesn’t know it.  I apologize if this ruined the ending for you, but it’s been 12 years so perhaps this could be the sign that you need to get out more.  (On a separate but related note, Darth Vader is Luke Skywalker’s father.)

Back to the movie theater… So there I was now halfway through this movie and I am now viewing this movie in a completely different way than I had watched the first half.  I saw things as they were, not as the director wanted me to believe they were.  Think about it: the buzz around this movie was this huge twist.  The director was intentionally allowing the viewers to believe something that wasn’t true, and for the first half of the movie I just went along with it.  It wasn’t until I actually questioned what I believed about the movie, that I started to believe something else.  When my belief changed, so did the way I viewed the movie.

I bring all this up because when thinking about my experience in that theater, I realize that for the first half I had just accepted, without question, what the director wanted me to believe.  As a matter of fact, it wasn’t until I started questioning what the director wanted me to believe that I actually came to believe something completely different.  At that point, I was finally able to see what was actually happening.

What if that were true outside of our local multiplex as well? If it is, what importance would that put on what we believe?  The good news is, if what we believe is that important, I have to believe God might have weighed in on the topic.

I believe we will discuss this on Wednesday.

Invest and Invite,

D.R.

 

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The Promise

As we approach Easter week and after hearing stories of redemption I was reflecting on one of my many career choices that I made that had so much promise.

Several years ago I took this job as a Branch Manager for a local mortgage company that was going public as a community bank.  The lure of a nice financial guarantee, stock options, the ability to open my own office, and hire a staff seemed like the perfect opportunity.  Everything seemed to be pointing to the plan I always wanted…

So I quit my job with a reputable bank where I was flourishing, and started the new career.

The first few weeks I was excited about the new products we had in development, that would allow me to compete with the likes of Countrywide and Wells Fargo.  We had identified office space in Herndon at a realtors office that would bring me new clients, and were going to market our exclusive access to alternative lending plans.  These affordable first-time home buyer loans would allow me to branch out from my normal business to attract an extended pool of prospects who could now buy properties in towns like Reston, McLean, and Vienna.  This was going to be awesome.

The COO of the bank who recruited me personally, absolutely loved me, and helped negotiate my package with the CEO and President, assuring me that I was stepping into a wonderful and credible outfit.  I was so excited about the promise.

But, the promise was not what I thought it was.  The portfolio loans in development never made it to the rate sheet, because they did not exist. The realtor who’s office I worked in wanted kick-backs, higher rent than what we negotiated and agreed to, and was frankly a crazy person who had a problem telling the truth and discerning between what was actually legal, and what was ethical.

Within 2 months, the COO who was my mentor was fired, actually kicked out in an internal power-play and I was directed to go build my business in Fauquier and Prince William County which was never part of the game plan.  It turned out what was supposed to be a promise, was a big fat lie.

Suffice it to say, this pretty much killed my career path and my annual income was cut by over two-thirds.  And after enduring 12 months of disappointment, I left for another, where I literally had to start all over.  The stock I bought and the options I had became worthless.  For months, I had to endure the pain and regret of something I did not see, and could not understand.

But isn’t that the same with all of us when face these unexpected trials?  If you are like me, its confusing, and you ask, “It wasn’t supposed to be like this, was it?”  Don’t we all have the tendency to buy into promises that never materialize?

Well, there is a parallel between these promises that we buy into, and the promise we have in the bible.  God assures us,  He has something more for us, even though we can’t see it or feel it at the time.

Jesus talks about “the Kingdom of God” yet what his followers experienced was far from heaven on earth.  That first Easter weekend looked nothing like the promise Jesus spoke about.  But the story wasn’t over…it was only just beginning.

Come on out this Wednesday and hear author Gavin Long discuss how God set his redemptive process in motion. He promised a coming King and a Kingdom that would never end. But that journey rarely looks like we expect to look like…

But in time, it makes a dramatic impact in our lives…

Come find out how…

Invest and Invite

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Pat Mancuso
patmancuso@mac.com
(703) 401-8302
FUEL
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Raise The Roof…

Looking at my latest calendar, X marks the spot on so many dates.  I have the Yankees coming into town in less than two weeks, a buddies wedding the end of April, a two-night camping trip with my sons in early May, my 25th prep-school reunion in June, a family vacation July, and another in August.  Then Football season!!!

Now unlike the old pirate who used to believe each one of these events had to be bigger and better then the rest…I still get caught up in the idea of creating these crazy events and make them bigger than life.  Parties are not meant to be small.  And I often get carried away by inviting an over-capacity crowd.

When it comes to my social calendar, I don’t ever want to leave anyone out, or left behind.  The more the merrier.  So I try to include everyone.

Each May, my neighborhood’s tradition is to celebrate a big Cinco De Mayo Party at my house.  But keeping it to just 80 neighbors is not good enough for me.  And I have now grown this party into a county-wide celebration that has over 250 invitees and a live band.  And due to that, I can’t hold it on May 5th anymore because its too big.  Its now held some time late in the summer, on a quiet weekend, and called whatever date in Spanish, with the tagline: Mancuso-palooza.

I bring this up because last week, we talked about inviting our friends into the “Resurrection life” and we spoke about it as if it were a party.  Now being a church guy, I like and understand the picture being painted, but to call it a “PARTY”, isn’t that a bit much?  I have never been sitting in church and blanked out and thought “Hey wait a second, am I sitting in a church or am I at Cinco de Mayo?

Now I am not saying that church should look like that but should there be such a stark contrast between the two?  One is something to which you literally count down the days until, and the other something people (People other than those on this list of course) look for excuses to avoid.

What if the whole Christianity thing was supposed to be something we couldn’t wait to attend?  What if the invitation to find out more about God was supposed to look as inviting as the Evite to Mancuso-palooza?

If there was ever a week to invite a friend into Fuel, this is the week.  DR is going to bring it home.  Step out with us and encourage your friends to join us.

Come on out this week as we enter our second week of our series Easter Prep: Raise The Roof.

Invest, Invite, Inspire…and Raise the Roof!

Pat Mancuso
patmancuso@mac.com
(703) 401-8302
FUEL
See our Blog at: https://menoffuel.com/blog

“It’s what you need to keep you going…”

Our mission is to create a comfortable, relevant and honest environment where men can explore and discuss aspects of life, purpose and faith.

We accomplish our mission by reviewing pertinent issues in men’s lives, examining them through relevant biblical principles, followed by a time of discussion with other men.

Wednesday mornings, September through May…and beyond
6:30 AM to 7:30 AM @ Hidden Creek Country Club, Reston, VA.

http://www.hiddencreekcc.com