Countdown to Easter Part II

Men of Fuel

For the last (almost) two years one of the tag lines of Fuel has been “Invest and Invite”.  As a matter of fact, Fuel itself grew out of the idea that we wanted to provide a “relevant environment” where guys could “invite” their friends to “explore aspects of life, purpose and faith”.  Well here we are on the doorsteps of Easter weekend, and I can’t think of a better time to leverage all of the investing that we all of have been doing by extending an invitation to tomorrow mornings Fuel.

Tomorrow will be our second week of our “Countdown to Easter” series.  Again, please take advantage of this opportunity to invite the guys in your life in whom you have been investing.  See you guys in the AM


The Never Ending Story

Men of Fuel,

When I was in the fifth grade, my father was the Captain of the USS Blue Ridge, which was flag ship of the seventh fleet.  We were stationed in Japan, so a few weeks after the release of movies in the US, the Navy base on which we lived would start showing the newly released films.  For some reason the movie theatre on base had given my father one of the new movies, and this giant movie projector that he set up in the Captain quarters of the ship and invited a friend of mine and his family over to watch this movie.  The movie was Rocky.

I remember watching that movie like it was yesterday.  The feeling of being completely captivated by a story is something that I will always relate to watching that movie.  Think about it, that movie had it all.  A guy that no one believed in, a guy that didn’t believe in himself, was given a chance to fight the heavyweight champion of the world.  Not only did he make it through all 15 rounds he took the fight to a split decision.  Perhaps he didn’t win the fight but he was victorious as no one even gave the guy a chance of making it through round 1.  What I find so hard to believe is that they decided to end the story like that.  You would think with all the momentum and all of the characters that the story could have continued.

Oh wait……it did

Rocky II was the rematch between Rocky Balboa and Apollo Creed.  While only ten months has passed since there last fight, there has been some changes in Rocky’s life.  He has married Adrian, and they are expecting a child.  Rocky begins training for the fight, but Adrian faints during an argument with her brother Paulie, and Rocky stops training and refuses to leave her bedside until she recovers.  She is completely unconscious but scene after scene shows Rocky sitting by her bed reading to her, until the day she wakes up says “There’s just one thing I want you to do for me Rocky”, to which he replies “What’s that?”, and she says WIN.  At that moment you realize that it didn’t matter if he was fighting Godzilla, you knew he was going to win…..and he does.  But even after that there is still so much that hasn’t been explored yet, that I can’t believe they didn’t make another…….

Oh wait……they did.

Rocky III shows Rocky as the heavyweight champion who seems to be spending more time in the bright lights of fame instead of training for his next fight.  However that doesn’t seem to matter much as Rocky never seems to face anyone that challenges him.   At the exact same time they show the rise of Clubber Lang, and hardcore boxer played by Mr. T, who during a confrontation before their first fight, pushes Rocky’s longtime trainer Mickey to the ground causing Mickey to suffer a heart attack.  Rocky gets beat by Clubber Lang and Mickey dies.  All seems lost until Rocky runs into Apollo Creed who agrees to train Rocky for a rematch with Clubber Lang.  Rocky wins and we all left the theater singing “Eye of the Tiger”.  Too bad the story ended there.  After all, if Rocky could beat Clubber Lang, who else could he beat.  I guess we will never know, since they never made another.

Oh wait…..they did

Rocky IV begins with Apollo Creed getting back into the ring to fight Russian giant Ivan Drago.  Ivan Drago beats Apollo Creed so badly that he dies from the injuries sustained in the fight.  Rocky decides to avenge his death and in the end ushers in the beginning of world peace by defeating a Russian Boxer in Russia.  Perhaps that wasn’t the part of the story I was looking for, which is a shame, because that is how they decided to end this story.

Oh wait…..no it wasn’t

Rocky V.  Seriously?  All that time, all that money and this is how you decide to end this story.  I felt cheated.  Thinking back to sitting in my father’s ship completely lost in the story of the original Rocky was so amazing that Rocky V didn’t even feel like it deserved to be part of this story.  After all these years of fighting all the victories, all the loss that Rocky has gone through, maybe I am getting older, but I wanted to see more of the fight in the man instead of the man in the fight.  Too bad they never made another….

Oh wait….they did.

Rocky Balboa.  This is how you go out.  30 years after the first movie Rocky Balboa gets one more shot.  Not at a title belt, but a promotional fight with the new champ.  What makes this story so great is that the fight in this movie is a backdrop for everything going on outside of the ring.  If you haven’t seen this installment, do yourself a favor and check it out.

I mention the above because sometimes I think I live my life, the same way I watch movies.  I divide segments of time and judge them as good or bad based on my previously desired outcome.  Unfortunately that’s not how life plays out.  Life may have many sub stories but it truly is one ongoing story.  Me losing my job, or me winning the big deal isn’t the end of the story.  It’s part of the story.  Winning the game, or losing the girl, isn’t the end of the story, it’s part of the story.  I think that’s one of the reasons that Jesus’ disciples had such a hard time understanding what he was saying.  I think it’s the same reason we have such a hard time as well.  We are always trying to view eternity through the lens of our current situation or circumstance, instead of the other way around.

Set your alarms and come on out tomorrow morning as we begin our two week prep for Easter with: The Never Ending Story.

Invest and Invite

D.R. Carlson


The Island of YAP: Identity (Week 6)

Men of Fuel,

The below story was taken from a show that aired on NPR.

There’s a tiny island called YAP out in the Pacific Ocean.  Economists love it because it helps answer this really basic question: What is money?

There’s no gold or silver on Yap. But hundreds of years ago, explorers from Yap found limestone deposits on an island hundreds of miles away. And they carved this limestone into huge stone discs, which they brought back across the sea on their small bamboo boats.

It’s unclear if these stones started as money. But at some point the people on Yap realized what most societies realize. They needed something that everyone agrees you can use to pay for stuff.

And like many societies, the people of Yap took the thing they had that was pretty — their version of gold — and decided that was money.

A piece of stone money was really valuable; you wouldn’t use it for some everyday purchase. You’d use it for something big — a daughter’s dowry, say.

“If somebody was in real dire straits, and something happened to their crop of food or they were running low on provisions and they had some stone money, they might trade,” says Scott Fitzpatrick, an anthropologist at North Carolina State University who is an expert on Yap.

One key thing about this money: It was really heavy. A big piece could weigh more than a car.

As a result, this very concrete form of money quickly made the jump to being something very abstract.

“They often talk about the stones themselves not changing hands at all,” Fitzpatrick says. “In fact, most of the time they wouldn’t.”

So imagine there’s this great big stone disc sitting in a village. One person gives it to another person. But the stone doesn’t move. It’s just that everybody in the village knows the stone now has a new owner.

In fact, the stone doesn’t even need to be on the island to count as money.

One time, according to the island’s oral tradition, a work crew was bringing a giant stone coin back to yap on a boat. And just before they got back to the island, they hit a big storm. The stone wound up on the bottom of the ocean.

The crew made it back to the island and told everybody what happened. And everybody decided that the piece of stone money was still good — even though it was on the bottom of the ocean.

That sounds silly doesn’t it?  That people would assign value to stones.  How ridicules, their just stones.  You couldn’t buy a car with them, or a house, or food, or cloths.  Well on Yap I guess you could, but here they would be worthless.

But what if we were doing the same thing?  What if we were assigning a value to something that was actually worthless anywhere but here. And what if we were in turn basing our masculinity and identity on something that had no value.  The question is, would we want to know?

 Set your alarms and join us tomorrow morning for our Sixth week of our Identity series “The Island of YAP”

See you guys in the AM


Extreme Makeover: Identity edition.

There used to be a show on ABC call “Extreme Makeover” where people would submit videos where they would plead their case on why they should be chosen for the “extreme makeover”.  The “lucky” ones chosen would then leave their friends and family and spend a few months with personal trainers, dentists, plastic surgeons, and life coaches.  After some amount of time they would gather all of the contestant’s family and friends and introduce the person that was completely made over……….I don’t think it’s on the air anymore.

After that they came out with “Extreme Makeover: Home addition”, of which I am sure everyone is much more aware.  Much like the original “Makeover” show people were chosen and sent away, but instead of personal trainers and dentists, crews of people would descend upon the house that had been chosen to be “made over”.

I think “Makeover” might not be the best term for this show, because if you have seen it you know they don’t really “Makeover” the old house.  They pretty much build a new one, but only after they take the original house to the ground.  But isn’t that how it has to be?  To have a brand new something, the old something has to go away.

I bring this up because over the last few weeks during our series on identity we have been discussing the fact that perhaps we have built our identity on a false sense of masculinity. Now if that’s the case then we have to realize that our Identity is going to need a “Makeover”, and I’m not talking about the can of paint kind.  I am talking about taking the old one to the ground.

Come on out tomorrow morning as Bill Clark takes us through the fifth week of our Identity series : Extreme Makeover: Identity edition.

See you guys in the AM

D.R.


Identity: week four

Men of Fuel,

A buddy of mine used to live with a guy that could build or fix just about anything.  If it needed building, he could build it, if it needed fixing, he could fix it.  Once, my buddy returned to the house with some of his other roommates, only to find their roommate in their driveway standing over their completely dismantled  washing machine.

 

Getting out of the car my buddy asked him what in the world he was doing.  His response: “I wanted to find out how it worked”

I love that story. Perhaps because I have NEVER had the desire to take my washing machine apart, or perhaps because that story causes me ask myself ‘Why have I never had the desire to take my washing machine apart”

Think about it.  If a result of taking it apart would be me learning how it worked, then I have to imagine that the reason I don’t is because I don’t want to know, or I am scared to death I couldn’t get it back together.

Let me confess that the reason is both.  I don’t want to know, AND I know I couldn’t get it back together.  After all it’s just a washing machine.  However would my answer be different if we were talking about something bigger, something more important, like my Identity.  What would keep me from taking apart the pieces that make up my identity to find out how it worked?  My guess is the same reasons: I don’t want to know, and I am scared to death that it won’t all fit back together.

But what if the pieces I built my Identity on were the wrong pieces, wouldn’t that be worth knowing?

Set your alarms and come on out tomorrow morning as Bill Clark continues with week four of our “IDENTITY” series.

Invest and Invite

D.R. Carlson