Men of Fuel
This Wednesday, which is tomorrow (Don’t get thrown off by the long weekend) we will be heading into our third week of our “Identity†series. One of the main themes of our series thus far has been that we as men tend to build our identity based on a false sense of masculinity. We as men go through life looking to our left and looking to our right and seeing that other men are not only also buying into this same false sense of masculinity, but using it as a measuring stick of success. So we throw our hat into the ring, since this is what we think it takes to be a man, and we begin at first to compete and then we compare.
- Can I run faster than William?
- Am I stronger than Shane?
- Can I get more girls than Steve?
- Can I sell more than Allen?
- Is my salary higher than Bill’s?
- Is my office bigger than Greg’s?
- Is my house bigger than Ted’s?
- Is my title more important than Frank’s?
Compete and compare, Compete and compare. We all do it.
But who wins?
May I suggest that if our competition is based on a false sense of masculinity, meaning something that isn’t true, then the cycle of compete and compare produces no winners. The game is rigged. As a matter of fact, the only thing the cycle of compete and compare will ever produce will be shame.
Come on out tomorrow, and invite a friend, as we dive into week three of our Identity series: “The Shame Factoryâ€